Body Parts

I recently listened to X96 Radio from Hell’s Painful Circle with Sister Dottie S. Dixon. She was giving advice to a young woman who had recently started dating someone new, but was second-guessing her relationship. I really appreciated what Sister Dottie had to say and decided to make it the topic of my new blog post.

She explained that attraction is dictated by 4 distinct areas of the body: the head, the heart, the gut, and the groin. The body parts breakdown like this:

The head is your intellect, rationality;

The heart is your emotions;

The gut is your intuition;

Last, but certainly not least, the groin is your sex-drive.

The tricky part, according to Sister Dottie, is keeping the balance between the body parts. The best sort of attraction is where all these body parts are coordinated with each other. Sister Dottie’s suggestion to the young woman was to listen to her gut, don’t let her head take over, and stay balanced.

My take on it: I have been in relationships that were overpowered by the groin, while my head and gut were screaming in agony, saying something wasn’t right. More often than not, I have tried to fool my body parts into accepting bad behavior, coming up with all sorts of excuses as to why to stay.

I’ve also been in relationships where everything looks perfect on paper, but my gut keeps telling me something is wrong or my groin just isn’t reacting and the sexual attraction just isn’t there.

I think that as I’ve grown older, I have begun to keep the balance and listen to what my head, heart, gut and groin are telling me.

I think that anyone who has been single for any length of time has experienced the imbalance. Here is totally hypothetical example:

You meet someone that immediately stimulates your mind. During a short conversation, you recognize the intellectual attraction almost immediately. Next, you really look at him or her, and your groin reacts with a “Hellllllllllllo there!”, so you realize (from your own perspective) that there is some sexual attraction. Even though your heart and/or gut might be questioning what to do in this situation, you listen to your head or your groin.

So if your head wins, you may not pursue anything further with him or her. If your groin wins, you may get some action (if it’s mutual, of course). But what then? If your body parts are imbalanced, maybe nothing.

What if your attraction spreads to your gut and/or your heart? Then you may be more balanced than you think.

Overall, I think the most important thing you can remember is that if you don’t share what you are feeling with these body parts, you may never grasp how their body parts are feeling. And ALWAYS listen to those parts of yourself and make choices that are best for you.

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