Dating in Salt Lake City can hit a broad spectrum of highs and lows. I seem to experience this roller coaster on a daily basis. The key is to find out how to keep your glass half-full no matter the ups and downs you experience. This is one of my many patterns I’m working on.
Monday morning I wake up hopeful. The weekend was great. Got lots of attention from the opposite sex… Felt desired and attractive… But as Monday goes by that feeling begins to fade.
I have always believed that you truly attract people in all aspects of life based on how you feel. Although I spent the latter part of my twenties with a wall around me (figuratively speaking), my comfort level has grown as I have matured. Although my own insecurities make appearances from time to time, I feel that I am much better equipped to handle a more serious relationship.
So after my weekend I felt like my glass was full. But minute by minute as my work day goes by, my energy level, along with my memory of my great weekend, begin to fade. My glass isn’t as full anymore.
After a long day in cubicle land, I get to go home. Now, I’ll be honest and say that I believe that I do a lot more personal reflection than I suspect most people do; at least to a stronger degree. So when I have time for personal reflection, my glass continues to empty.
Where does this self reflection take me?
· I’m ready for something real! Why won’t anyone take on the challenge of having a relationship with me?
· If one more person says “If you stop looking you’ll meet someone” I might lose my mind!
· What’s wrong with me?
· I’m giving up! Screw finding love and happiness. I’m going to the nunnery!
So what can I do to fix my leaky glass?
1. I have to stop depending on others to fill up my glass! This is easier said than done, of course.
2. I need to be present and live in the moment. There is plenty going on today so why worry about tomorrow?
3. I will surround myself with friends and family that love me. I will not isolate myself.
4. I will remember “The Fool” in a tarot deck. The Fool represents playfulness; he doesn’t let the real world distract him. I will let loose, have fun, and be silly.
5. I will remind myself of these things when I start to slip!
What ideas do you have? When you start to see the glass as half empty, how do you combat it? Please share your wisdom with me and other readers!
